關於愛 Something about Love

如果愛是唯一能夠使你的靈魂提升的方法，你應該要持守怎樣的愛? 
If love is the only way to make you ascend, what kind of love should you keep? 

太多人把愛掛在口邊，而實際上大部分的愛都已經被污染了。不論是父母對子女的愛、愛情的愛、朋友之愛... 在這個世代都已變成等價交換的貨物和達到目的的手段。
There are too many people who say they love, but most of the love they said is actually polluted. Nowadays, love became a good to exchange and a way to reach one's goal. 

當你站在你口口聲聲說你愛的人面前，請你想想，你真的如你所說的那樣愛他嗎？很多時候，你只是愛上那種被他所愛的感覺，那就是說，你愛的其實是你自己。在愛裏面之所以容易迷失，因為你無法辨識到底你愛的是誰-- 是對方還是自己。
When you say you love someone, please think, do you really love him/ her as you said? Most of the time, you are in love with the feeling of having he/she loves you. That means, you are loving yourself. 

雖然是這樣，但我不是說愛自己不好，因為人必須先學會如何愛自己才有能力愛其他人，正如只有一個滿溢的瓶子才能倒出水一樣，給予也是這樣，所以必須先讓自己充滿愛，然後才給予愛，這樣的愛不會勉強、不會渴望回報，就只是愛對方的本相，無論對方是否按你所想的那樣回應，你都決意愛他，因為在你愛意滿溢的心裏，你會很高興有機會分享愛，而且也很尊重對方的自由與選擇。給予並尊重，也許就已能解決很多問題。
It doesn't mean that loving yourself is not good. In fact, we must know how to love ourselves before loving others. As only a filled bottle can pour out water, giving is likewise. When you are full of love, you'll be glad to share love with your loved ones, whatever they react won't change your love. You give and respect their choice, this attitude can solve a lot of problems already. 

修習愛跟其他的修行一樣，都是循序漸進的，不可能一步登天。所以如果你發現自己愛自己比較多，那也不是什麼大不了的事。愛，不一定要對外才是對的。人們時常強調要愛其他人、要捨己為人，其實只是一個目標。如果不先學會愛自己，又怎麼能愛人如己？如果你對自己都不尊重，那麼當你愛人的時候，這份不尊重也會出現在你對你所愛的人的態度上，最終會令愛消減。 
Practicing love is a long progress, it's impossible to be instant. Therefore, if you discovered that you love yourself more than others, it's just normal. Love doesn't mean that you have to give to others so as to called love. Though people always insist to love others, it is just a goal. If we never learned how to love ourselves, it's hard to love others as ourselves. If we never respect ourselves, such attitude will follow you to your relationship with your loved one and destroy your relationship.